GYC Canada: The Cross Connection: Love & Law Combined

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GYC Canada

Michael Carducci

The Rainbow

Father, I thank you for this opportunity to share the tools, Lord, that you have shown me through the years of being able to overcome history and memory, but also, Lord, to battle the enemy.

And not just battle the enemy, Lord, but to find overcoming victory.

And I ask, Lord, that you will lead and guide, that you will send your Holy Spirit.

All right, a couple of other things that I want to share with you.

A friend of mine, I actually knew this girl when she was just a little kid, and she grew up in a very conservative Adventist home.

She was homeschooled and you'd think that she had every security or protection from pornography.

However, she had friends that were talking about it, friends that were guys, and at 15 she was just curious and so she checked out what pornography was and unfortunately she became hooked.

After several months she finally gained the victory as a young girl still wanting to be pure for her wedding, wanting to have a husband that was a virgin also.

He had also come from a history of some pornography and eventually they did get married.

She saved herself for marriage and then after she got married, she thought that she deserved not only a husband that was a virgin, but she thought that because of her own purity, that that lined her up for special, I don't know, entitlements, I guess.

But unfortunately, what happened is her eyes became open to the realities of what's in the world after she got married.

She had some sexual dysfunction in her relationship with her husband.

It brought on another bout of pornography for her husband.

The shame and the humiliation of what she went through.

She's very transparent in her book, but also talks about how they found that victory and how they found it through Jesus Christ.

It's also got some facts and some different resources in it that's really incredible and you can get this online it's called Arena of War and it's by Jess Ventura a very transparent story and I think for any young person it really helps to it really helps to not only explain what happens in the world today through lust and how pervasive it is, even in a conservative family, how this can be an issue in the family as well.

We have just made a decision in coming out ministries that our desire is we would rather put these in your hand than to basically use this as a way to financially support our ministry.

So we have decided as of just 2 days ago that we are going to give away the movie for free.

And so we have them on a little USB stick here, and I also have them in subtitles in French.

We just asked for a donation to help support the ministry.

It costs $150, 000 just to make this movie 3 years ago.

So it's not that we're looking to recoup that.

However, it does take finances to support the ministry.

So if you're inclined, we just ask that you would fill out your name and information for our website, and then also just a small donation to cover the production of the film, if you're inclined.

All right, so we have those available for you as well.

The movie's been translated into 12 different languages.

12 people came forward and they said, oh we need it in Dutch, we need it in Czech, we need it in Russian, we need it in Polish, and we're like, okay, you want to translate it?

And so we now have it in 12 different languages.

So I'll be heading to Thailand in December and we'll have that available as well.

So again, that's just a little bit of housekeeping.

1 of the other things that I want to tell you about is my colleague Ron Woolsey.

I'm 1 of the founding members of Coming Out Ministries.

9 years ago we started this ministry because we were desperate for resources when we came back into the church.

We thought that we were the only ones that would actually dare come out of homosexuality into Seventh-day Adventism.

Unfortunately, the church still did not have any resources.

Ron Woolsey, who's a retired pastor, who's 1 of the founding members, this was his first book and this is actually a quote from what the pastor told his wife when he told his wife that he was gay.

The pastor looked at his wife and said, you should just get a divorce because that kind can never change.

So that was the title of his first book and then this is a compilation.

His second book is Straight Answers to the Gay Question.

It's actually 20 years of collecting question and answers off of his internet website and that's been also compiled into a book.

Unfortunately we still have to cover the cost of these and so these aren't available until after Sabbath but again the movie is.

1 of the most important things that I think is really valuable is we have this series is called the Conquer series and the Conquer series is not produced by an Adventist company but it's completely biblical and it's got 12 different DVDs it's got 2 workbooks and it also comes with a journal.

It's comprehensive, it's a beautiful program to go through.

I think it's a great thing to offer as a men's ministry for the church and also for overcoming pornography addiction and sexual addiction.

It's a very powerful resource and we have that available as well.

I'd like to start off with just some statistics about sexual purity and sexuality in the church.

There was a young woman 2 years ago, I was in Cuba, and this young woman, she was 1 of the speakers that was actually preaching to some of the young people.

She was involved in a youth group in Brooklyn, New York, and she started to hear our stories about overcoming pornography and sexual addiction.

And she came to me privately and said that she was not only acting out sexually with some of the guys in her youth group, but she was also addicted to pornography and had bisexual attraction.

And I looked at her and I said, well, you know what the Bible says about sex, don't you?

And she said, well, not really because the church never says anything.

That was when my eyes were opened to this issue.

The world is screaming about sex, you know, through YouTube and all these videos or whatever.

And by the church's silence, we are actually giving our young people over to these ideologies that are being promoted and pushed.

I have pastors, young pastors that are studying in seminary coming to me talking about how they've been addicted to pornography since they were 7 and 8 years old.

You know, when I was a young person, it was very difficult to get a hold of pornography.

Unfortunately, now with the handheld devices that we have, it's very easy to access porn, and these have been around for so many years now that young people are getting slimed by pornography addiction at a much younger rate and we'll talk about that.

Mom's looking you know for the laptop and and Billy's in the bedroom with his friends and and you can see it says, Billy do you know do you and your friends have a laptop?

And and here you see Billy talking through the door and just saying, yeah mom we're doing our homework, but on the door you see internet porn, free inside, extreme misogyny, and you know exactly what these kids are using the computer for.

1 of the things that I recognize now that the pornography industry knows that the sooner they can expose your young children to pornography the sooner that they can make them addicts.

And not only do they want them to be addicts, they want to get their resources.

And so what's really unfortunate is now unless you have accountability software on your computer and on your devices for your children, if you are not actively supervising what your children are looking at on their tablets and phones and on the computer, unfortunately your children have already been slimed.

Even if your child goes to the computer and looks up Barney the Purple Dinosaur, the pornography industry knows that they have ways of sliming these kids.

There was a kid that was, his father was a pastor, mother was a nurse, and they kept the computer in the family room so that they could monitor what their children were watching.

This little boy went to church school and in church school his best friend at 7 years old brought a piece of pornography that he printed off the family computer and that hooked him.

At 7 years old this little kid would actually set his alarm for 03:00 in the morning so that he could use the family computer in the family room to look at pornography.

As he grew up, of course, this addiction became stronger and stronger.

Eventually, he went to our Adventist education.

He also went to Andrews University and he said he never had to pay for sex because there were always plenty of girls willing to have sex with him.

He said there would be the girl that would be strumming the guitar during Vespers on a Friday night, but she was sending pictures of herself naked from the waist up to his roommate.

This is what's going on in our Adventist education.

But in Christian education, our children are already experiencing the rapid decline in morality.

Did you know that every second $3, 000 is being spent on pornography?

Every second 28, 000 people are viewing pornography, that's 102 million people every hour.

The average age of first internet exposure to pornography is 11 years old.

15 to 17 year olds having multiple hardcore exposures, 80%, and 8 to 16 year olds that view pornography online, 90%, and mostly while doing their homework.

Again, Supervision is key for your children.

As a matter of fact, on all of my devices, my computer, my laptop, and my phone, I have Covenant Eyes installed.

Makes it very difficult to sometimes do research, especially in our ministry, but I recognize how valuable these are, these blocks are, to help keep me from spiraling out of control into looking into areas that I shouldn't be.

The pornography industry is larger than the revenues of the top technology companies combined.

You take Microsoft, Google, Amazon, eBay, Yahoo, Apple, Netflix, and Earthling, you put them all together and pornography still makes more than these companies together.

According to the General Conference survey that was done 3 years ago, they reported that 49% of our Adventist young people think that gay marriage is acceptable.

They have been indoctrinated by our silence and also by the world promoting and pushing the fact that homosexual monogamy is actually acceptable by God.

The most startling statistic that I have according to Covenant Eyes is that only 3% of boys and 17% of girls have never seen pornography.

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